Do you consider yourself a good person? How do you define the word ‘good’ anyway?
We know that some celebrities, entrepreneurs, or other famous people donate their money for charity. It’s easy to only judge them that they’re doing good because life has been good to them.
Now, look at a thief who thought that he couldn’t get money in any way other than stealing, or someone who committed suicide just because he thought his life was nothing but a burden for his family. Why did they all do that? Are they basically not good people?
Can you guarantee that you will still be a good person regardless of whatever condition you are in?
Kate Bowler, a TED Talk Speaker, author of Blessed: A History of American Prosperity Gospel and Everything Happens for a Reason shared her very own experience about having a rock bottom in her beyond-amazing life. She believed the idea that says you are what you think.
This means that to gain something positive, we should always think positively and speak positively. That if you do something good, good things will always come back to you.
Despite giving myself an assurance that everything is going to be okay, all I do is keep questioning my self-worth even more. I used to think that I have become a good person in my whole life. I gave my best to be a kind human being but I can’t help but always wonder why bad things always happen to me, which made me question myself; am I not worthy enough?
However, after taking a long time to contemplate, I finally understood why some people unexpectedly did something terrible. I do believe that they were just consumed by their negative thoughts as I did.
The mind can be that powerful in controlling oneself. So before you blame yourself for something you can’t control, try to accept that negative feeling first so that it doesn’t lead you to do undesirable actions.
If you think that your life doesn’t feel so good, that doesn’t mean you are not a good person. Do you still think of the people you love? If yes, it means that you still have that kindness within you. You just have to learn to project it to yourself too.
We often love other people wholeheartedly as they are, meanwhile we tend to be our own worst critics. If we can appreciate and be proud of other people’s achievements, then we should also appreciate and be proud of how far we’ve grown.
We, ourselves, also deserve those great amounts of love, as much as what we give to others.
You may find it hard to practice self-love. Even after you think that you have successfully done it, you will continue to face other challenges. Because that’s life. No matter how many times you think you have through your lowest point, no matter how many times you think you have healed, life may push you down over and over again.
And when that moment comes, I hope you will be a little more resilient.
After all, self-love and self-compassion will always be the biggest challenges of our lives. No one outdoes the others. So, for everyone who may find it hard to love yourself as you are, trust me that thing is totally normal.
You are not alone. We are all in this together. We all are learning, still, and always. Self-love and self-compassion will always be the lifetime homework we have to do to be a better version of ourselves.
Mega Oriska is an ordinary 22 years old, and a self-proclaimed altruist. She aspires to make more people open their eyes, and also their hearts, to any kind of humanity issues. Therefore, she writes. Connect with Mega Oriska through her social media accounts here: