1. “You are freaking beautiful”
When you are young, maybe when you’re in high school or college, I want you to understand that those are the times when everyone, especially girls, is trying to compete with each other searching for their definition of beauty. We follow trends, we follow friends.
It is decent advice for every girl in high school and college to know that they are already beautiful inside and out.
It is not a competition to get the boys’ attention. You are valuable. You are more valuable when you know your beauty does not depend on how many boys confess that they like you.
Attraction comes not only in the form of a beautiful face, it also comes in the form of intelligence, passion, attitude, personality, and a kind heart.
2. “Adulthood will come to you later, just enjoy your moment”
Nowadays, there are many teenagers who are struggling to fast forward their minds to become adults. I hope you know that it is never easy to become adults.
The older you get, the more burden you have on your shoulder.
Life is becoming more real after you graduate from college, especially when you still do not know what you are going to do with it. People look at you with expectations.
Everybody is busily asking you about your future, waiting for your result without giving a single care about the hard work behind it. Enjoy your moment because adulthood sucks But, no worries. You’ll figure things out, eventually.
3. “It is (totally) OK to be different”
If you are not fit in the group of people who you called “best friends” right now, then do not try so hard to fit in. Do not cling and attach to them. Make friends with others. Search for the right friendship where you feel most comfortable with.
Sometimes, people who you meet accidentally can connect with you more than groups of girls who just force you to hang out with them in the fancy cafe every week.
It is really OK to be different from your friends. There is no single rule in the playbook where you have to follow everything. You just need to be where you need to be.
And I hope you will remember this point, even after you’ve graduated because adulthood is about looking for the right circles to be connected with. Brace yourself to meet as many people as possible.
4. “Discover things that you love to do”
At your young age, you have unlimited time to get lost and be found. Along that season, please try to discover things that you love to do. By doing that, you also learn more about yourself.
Are you into art? Cooking? Pastry? Automotive? Gardening? Coding? Photography?
Search for things that make you feel the most alive and pursue it while you can. Take risks, explore, and improve. All those things will make your life more purposeful and exciting.
5. “Everyone is confused about their future, so relax”
No, you are not the only one who questions yourself at midnight about what kind of person you would be in the future, what kind of job you would do, what kind of people you are going to meet and such.
Believe me, we are all enjoying our time asking, “What should I do next?”, “Can I become a successful person?”, “What kind of man I would crazily fall in love with?”, “Does love even exist?” “How do I apply for that job?” and other stuff, including “How do I pay my bills?”
Our minds become overloaded by the question marks and you have so many times to figure things out, so don’t worry.
In the end of the day, we are all wondering, yet no one ever gets a clear answer about how to live this life.
If you still feel vague about it, that is okay. We are all a little uncomfortable to talk about the future because no one really knows what they want. It is a humane thing. Take your time, you are not in a rush for everything. Yet, the big adventure is waiting for you.
But, most of all, dear my younger self, I’m proud of who you’re becoming.
You did well and we are enough.
About the Author:
A strong believer that words can break someone, but also can save many. Passionate to share lots of positivity on self-love & embracing human feelings, behavior, and interaction. Let’s grow together, we are here to encourage each other.